Monday tip: Spend some time on your own

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So today we speak about time spent on our own. I can hear it... I know what you are saying... “Yeah right, spend some time on your own... on which planet do you live?!”

Don’t forget I am a busy mum too! I do know how difficult it is to spend time on your own when you have young children... I know what it feels to have a conversation with a toddler while sitting on the toilet! Or try having a shower while making sure that the same toddler stop climbing on top of the toilet or send iggle piggle down the toilet... a lot of toilet stories, I know. My moment of heaven is usually those 2 hours when my 2 boys are having their afternoon nap, because I finally managed to have them both to sleep at the same time!!!! Round of applause please!! And if one of them decides to cross me and wakes up slightly earlier or takes longer to settle, I feel totally cheated, robbed from those minutes that were mine... MINE I SAID!!

So why do we feel guilty when we want some time on our own? Because we are genetically imprinted... for more on see my post on the mother’s guilt.

The fact is that too much time busy and accompanied is as unhealthy as too much time alone.

Having some free time will help you recharge your batteries and also will allow you to catch up with that old friend, you know who, YOU that’s it!

You are a mum, that’s a fact and you love it that’s another fact, but do you remember how it felt before to have time on your own? Do you remember what you enjoyed doing in your time off then? Did you like reading? Did you have a hobby? Did you like spending time pampering yourself? Whatever it is that you liked can you think of some time when you could do it again now?

As much as you love that time spent and shared with your children, you need time to have time off! Imagine going to work 24/7! Even if you absolutely loved your job and colleagues, and let’s face it, the odds of that are extremely low, this would feel a little bit like hell... well to me anyway.

Being a mum is most probably the best job in the world and we sign up for life, but it is very healthy to have time when you are simply yourself. It helps you connect with your deep needs and emotions. It also allows you to look after yourself.

So what could you do on your own?

·         Exercise – you might want to enrol in a gym club start a dance class.

·         Start an art class – don’t stop yourself because you think you are not gifted. If you want to do it, then you should. Remember that art is subjective and that what you might like someone else might not and vice versa.

·         Practice meditation – it is a great way to free your mind from all the daily clutter such as “I must remember to buy dishwasher tablets or wash Josh’s PE kit”. It allows you to centre your energy and it is a great way to recharge your batteries

·         Just go for a drive or a walk on your own – It has the same effect as meditation.

Come on you can do it! 15 min everyday are often better than 3 hours every 4 months, but you are the best judge. Find your own time and ENJOY!!

Comments

[Tara@Sticky Fingers]

Couldn't agree more.
Funnily enough I have just locked myself in the bathroom for 15 minutes - shower, face mask, all over lotion, moisturise. Bliss.
You find it where ever you can!